依據您最後的資料 ,老貓的方式恐怕沒有用.....,

當事人可以考慮諮詢律師,看看是否以長期沒有履行婚姻義務與責任,要求當地法院考慮 Annulment 相關 Grounds for Annulment 的資料如下

http://info.legalzoom.com/annulment-marriage-due-abandonment-21718.html

或是 file a divorce based upon abandonment

http://family-law.lawyers.com/divorce/the-effects-of-abandonment-on-your-marriage-and-family.html