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I am so sorry to hear about your situation. If I were you, I would take the child back from China, and send him/her to daycare so that you guys can be together as a family. It is unclear whether your hu*****and will be willing or able to help you take care of the child. You may need to be prepared to be a de facto single mother. However, there are single mothers elsewhere, and with love and hard work it has been proven time and again that it is doable. There is a chance that eventually your hu*****and will turnaround so that he will either find a job, or become a good stay at home dad. Either way it is not a bad situation. Worst case scenario is that he makes a big fuss about it, making your life even harder than a single mother. In that case, I personally would rather go for a divorce. A man does not deserve to be a father and hu*****and if he is not willing to either work or take care of his own child. The fact is that most men do both. You deserve better.

Keep in mind, if your relationship with your hu*****and suddenly deteriorates, there is a chance that you might not be able to physically get your child back to live with you. They are in China, where western laws do not reach.