回复：my dilemma

I don't know what to say on your situation, and I believe you are the only person who knows what you want and what to do. I was in the similar situation before. The difference was my hu*****and was in china while I was in HK studing my phD. Separation is the worst enemy for the relationship. Now I realize communication is the key to keep it alive. I did call him every week, but what i mean the conversation is the level of it, but not just the talk. After 3 years I got my phD, got a postdoc position in Canada, and got my family immigrated as principal applicant, then found the relationship had to be over. Sometimes you mean one thing, but you just can not control the situation, and finally you may not get what you want . I dont know what to say, but now I think when I can not make a decision, I listen to my heart but not my brain. Then I will not regret.

Oh, by the way, I think your phD experience can be counted as working experience.

Wish you the best.