华盛顿邮报--在我走之前:斯坦福神经外科医生关于生活和时间的离别智慧 (ZT)

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午饭时老婆让我看这篇文章,这是刚刚去世的斯坦福37岁的神经外科医生的临终智慧。

让这种揪心的文字,扫去你的抱怨和不快吧。慢下来享受生活,是多么值得珍惜的事啊。

http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/inspired-life/wp/2015/03/12/before-i-go-a-stanford-neurosurgeons-parting-wisdom-about-life-and-time/

不愿读的朋友可看文章后面8分钟录像



Before I Go: A Stanford neurosurgeon’s parting wisdom about life and time

 

In residency, there’s a saying: The days are long, but the years are short. In neurosurgical training, the day usually began a little before 6 a.m., and lasted until the operating was done, which depended, in part, on how quick you were in the OR.

A resident’s surgical skill is judged by his technique and his speed. You can’t be sloppy and you can’t be slow. From your first wound closure onward, spend too much time being precise and the scrub tech will announce, “Looks like we’ve got a plastic surgeon on our hands!” Or say: “I get your strategy — by the time you finish sewing the top half of the wound, the bottom will have healed on its own. Half the work — smart!” A chief resident will advise a junior: “Learn to be fast now — you can learn to be good later.” Everyone’s eyes are always on the clock. For the patient’s sake: How long has the patient been under anesthesia? During long procedures, nerves can get damaged, muscles can break down, even causing kidney failure. For everyone else’s sake: What time are we getting out of here tonight?

There are two strategies to cutting the time short, like the tortoise and the hare. The hare moves as fast as possible, hands a blur, instruments clattering, falling to the floor; the skin slips open like a curtain, the skull flap is on the tray before the bone dust settles. But the opening might need to be expanded a centimeter here or there because it’s not optimally placed. The tortoise proceeds deliberately, with no wasted movements, measuring twice, cutting once. No step of the operation needs revisiting; everything proceeds in orderly fashion. If the hare makes too many minor missteps and has to keep adjusting, the tortoise wins. If the tortoise spends too much time planning each step, the hare wins.

The funny thing about time in the OR, whether you frenetically race or steadily proceed, is that you have no sense of it passing. If boredom is, as Heidegger argued, the awareness of time passing, this is the opposite: The intense focus makes the arms of the clock seem arbitrarily placed. Two hours can feel like a minute. Once the final stitch is placed and the wound is dressed, normal time suddenly restarts. You can almost hear an audible whoosh. Then you start wondering: How long till the patient wakes up? How long till the next case gets started? How many patients do I need to see before then? What time will I get home tonight?

It’s not until the last case finishes that you feel the length of the day, the drag in your step. Those last few administrative tasks before leaving the hospital, however far post-meridian you stood, felt like anvils. Could they wait till tomorrow? No. A sigh, and Earth continued to rotate back toward the sun.

But the years did, as promised, fly by. Six years passed in a flash, but then, heading into chief residency, I developed a classic constellation of symptoms — weight loss, fevers, night sweats, unremitting back pain, cough — indicating a diagnosis quickly confirmed: metastatic lung cancer. The gears of time ground down. While able to limp through the end of residency on treatment, I relapsed, underwent chemo and endured a prolonged hospitalization.

I emerged from the hospital weakened, with thin limbs and thinned hair. Now unable to work, I was left at home to convalesce. Getting up from a chair or lifting a glass of water took concentration and effort. If time dilates when one moves at high speeds, does it contract when one moves barely at all? It must: The day shortened considerably. A full day’s activity might be a medical appointment, or a visit from a friend. The rest of the time was rest.

With little to distinguish one day from the next, time began to feel static. In English, we use the word time in different ways, “the time is 2:45” versus “I’m going through a tough time.” Time began to feel less like the ticking clock, and more like the state of being. Languor settled in. Focused in the OR, the position of the clock’s hands might seem arbitrary, but never meaningless. Now the time of day meant nothing, the day of the week scarcely more so.

Verb conjugation became muddled. Which was correct? “I am a neurosurgeon,” “I was a neurosurgeon,” “I had been a neurosurgeon before and will be again”? Graham Greene felt life was lived in the first 20 years and the remainder was just reflection. What tense was I living in? Had I proceeded, like a burned-out Greene character, beyond the present tense and into the past perfect? The future tense seemed vacant and, on others’ lips, jarring. I recently celebrated my 15th college reunion; it seemed rude to respond to parting promises from old friends, “We’ll see you at the 25th!” with “Probably not!”

Yet there is dynamism in our house. Our daughter was born days after I was released from the hospital. Week to week, she blossoms: a first grasp, a first smile, a first laugh. Her pediatrician regularly records her growth on charts, tick marks of her progress over time. A brightening newness surrounds her. As she sits in my lap smiling, enthralled by my tuneless singing, an incandescence lights the room.

Time for me is double-edged: Every day brings me further from the low of my last cancer relapse, but every day also brings me closer to the next cancer recurrence — and eventually, death. Perhaps later than I think, but certainly sooner than I desire. There are, I imagine, two responses to that realization. The most obvious might be an impulse to frantic activity: to “live life to its fullest,” to travel, to dine, to achieve a host of neglected ambitions. Part of the cruelty of cancer, though, is not only that it limits your time, it also limits your energy, vastly reducing the amount you can squeeze into a day. It is a tired hare who now races. But even if I had the energy, I prefer a more tortoiselike approach. I plod, I ponder, some days I simply persist.

Everyone succumbs to finitude. I suspect I am not the only one who reaches this pluperfect state. Most ambitions are either achieved or abandoned; either way, they belong to the past. The future, instead of the ladder toward the goals of life, flattens out into a perpetual present. Money, status, all the vanities the preacher of Ecclesiastes described, hold so little interest: a chasing after wind, indeed.

Yet one thing cannot be robbed of her futurity: my daughter, Cady. I hope I’ll live long enough that she has some memory of me. Words have a longevity I do not. I had thought I could leave her a series of letters — but what would they really say? I don’t know what this girl will be like when she is 15; I don’t even know if she’ll take to the nickname we’ve given her. There is perhaps only one thing to say to this infant, who is all future, overlapping briefly with me, whose life, barring the improbable, is all but past.

That message is simple: When you come to one of the many moments in life when you must give an account of yourself, provide a ledger of what you have been, and done, and meant to the world, do not, I pray, discount that you filled a dying man’s days with a sated joy, a joy unknown to me in all my prior years, a joy that does not hunger for more and more, but rests, satisfied. In this time, right now, that is an enormous thing.

This article is republished with the permission of Stanford Medicine magazine.  Its author, Stanford University neurosurgeon Paul Kalanithi, died Monday night at the age of 37. Here is his obituary.

 

Below is a video of Kalanithi speaking about the importance of time:

 
Days are long, years are short(8:38)
Paul Kalanithi reflects on being a physician and a patient, the human experience of facing death, and the joy he found despite terminal illness. (YouTube/ Stanford)

所有跟帖: 

我也刚看了local报纸, 37岁,4期肺癌过世,从不抽烟。去年刚结束residence。 -swj2000- 给 swj2000 发送悄悄话 swj2000 的博客首页 (6 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 11:15:49

实在令人痛心,很悲哀 -Lilac2003- 给 Lilac2003 发送悄悄话 Lilac2003 的博客首页 (274 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 11:18:16

每隔几年,就会出现一个类似的故事,过去已经发生过很多次,将来还会继续发生 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 11:22:09

上了战场,就没有退路。再多次类似的故事,也不能改变什么,直到不得不改变。 -吃与活- 给 吃与活 发送悄悄话 吃与活 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 11:28:04

很可惜,奋斗辛苦那么多年,刚开始工作不到一年,就走了,前功尽弃.实习的第6年查出4期肺癌的。 -swj2000- 给 swj2000 发送悄悄话 swj2000 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 11:36:17

听说过有做住院医的朋友快要结束时生了病,不能继续下去,也是很可惜的。 -吃与活- 给 吃与活 发送悄悄话 吃与活 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 11:42:32

其实就是没那个命。有刚翻身挣钱就脑出血死的,有挣钱多但几十年都不开心愉快想离婚又不敢的,有杀人的。。。 -爱吃肉的胖子- 给 爱吃肉的胖子 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 11:54:33

我不想说这是一种愚蠢 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (1722 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 11:49:57

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我也点赞了 ;-) -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 11:54:51

有点不厚道 -吃与活- 给 吃与活 发送悄悄话 吃与活 的博客首页 (15 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:04:19

原来是说你自己不厚道啊^_^ -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:04:45

医者不自医。。。 -爱吃肉的胖子- 给 爱吃肉的胖子 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:07:40

别逗了 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (668 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:12:56

SS -yunmama- 给 yunmama 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:21:15

多研究一下自然规律,对你的人生会有启示的 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (617 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:27:42

SS -yunmama- 给 yunmama 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:35:25

错误也是一种人生经历呀 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (332 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:38:56

这个mm你多多开导,能帮到她的。 -Lilac2003- 给 Lilac2003 发送悄悄话 Lilac2003 的博客首页 (67 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:51:36

最让你受益的恐怕还是杀鸡方法吧^_^ -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:55:08

感觉您很谦逊,前途无量。。。 -御用文人- 给 御用文人 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 14:08:28

御姐太会说话了 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 14:16:11

因为我批评她几次,她都能接受。比此网的许多“大人物”心眼儿大,谦虚,非常有涵养。 -御用文人- 给 御用文人 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 14:38:45

啊呀,您老也来批评我呀,我也能接受的呀 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (18 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 14:52:00

人生规划大师? -Lilac2003- 给 Lilac2003 发送悄悄话 Lilac2003 的博客首页 (89 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:35:29

^_^哈哈哈哈,又被我忽悠进了不是 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (69 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:39:48

人在江湖身不由己。你可以不要钱,人家不能不要货。。。 -舞女- 给 舞女 发送悄悄话 舞女 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:38:26

谁要钱谁来供货 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (113 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:46:06

SS -yunmama- 给 yunmama 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:15:38

觉得华裔和印度裔的功利心太强了。让小孩选择一个自己喜欢的职业,而不一定是能挣钱的职业,是不是更好呢? -吃与活- 给 吃与活 发送悄悄话 吃与活 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 11:50:58

在美加人还能饿死吗?普通工作足够;人和人的差别在于内在幸福感,整个人提气不提气,而童年被push最破坏幸福感,破坏人的气质。 -爱吃肉的胖子- 给 爱吃肉的胖子 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 11:57:13

我就是被push着长大的,所以毫无气质可言 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (95 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:00:00

有人不是为挣钱,真的很喜欢成为医生,以帮助人们, -Lilac2003- 给 Lilac2003 发送悄悄话 Lilac2003 的博客首页 (106 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 11:58:59

医生是非常好的职业,喜欢就好。“挣钱”不是问题,“不喜欢”是。 -吃与活- 给 吃与活 发送悄悄话 吃与活 的博客首页 (27 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:07:32

看没病没灾的"病人",最好贫穷没文化的少医疗纠纷,没夜班没责任,很好。否则压力太大不值。 -爱吃肉的胖子- 给 爱吃肉的胖子 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:10:22

没有成就感,也不好 -Lilac2003- 给 Lilac2003 发送悄悄话 Lilac2003 的博客首页 (69 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:15:11

抑郁是天生的,不是因为没有成就感。工作最多最多算最后一根稻草。前几天一个刚赴教职两月的30+岁国人,死在家里,是不是抑郁症自杀不 -爱吃肉的胖子- 给 爱吃肉的胖子 发送悄悄话 (36 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:23:10

他与这名医生同龄,完美主义者, -Lilac2003- 给 Lilac2003 发送悄悄话 Lilac2003 的博客首页 (110 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:29:40

警惕"微笑性抑郁",在外看着挺外向其实那不是真正的自己,只有关起门来的幸福满足才是真外向真满足。 -爱吃肉的胖子- 给 爱吃肉的胖子 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:32:37

好像听说晒幸福是一种病 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (137 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:34:23

请不要吓唬人 -吃与活- 给 吃与活 发送悄悄话 吃与活 的博客首页 (78 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:32:52

完美主义者从来没想过告别这件事,所以不会去考虑告别是否完美 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:35:29

完美主义无法满足自我设定的完美标准,所以绝望了 -Lilac2003- 给 Lilac2003 发送悄悄话 Lilac2003 的博客首页 (82 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:41:00

做医生一定要非常喜欢才行。我平时看杀条鱼,把螃蟹扔汤水里就非常受不了,一想到医学院的解剖课就不寒而栗。 -swj2000- 给 swj2000 发送悄悄话 swj2000 的博客首页 (75 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:33:49

那是你太衰了,我小学就会杀鱼杀黄鳝了 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (296 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:39:19

我也会操刀杀鸡,尽管我不喜欢.. -Lilac2003- 给 Lilac2003 发送悄悄话 Lilac2003 的博客首页 (36 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:43:45

我是一刀封喉 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (54 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:48:18

是被迫. -Lilac2003- 给 Lilac2003 发送悄悄话 Lilac2003 的博客首页 (42 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:51:58

哈哈哈哈哈,太欢乐了 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:53:15

Wow!你太厉害了!我小时候从来不敢看大人杀鸡,杀完鸡脖子放血我都看了受不了,干脆也不看。让我杀鸡还不如杀了我。 -swj2000- 给 swj2000 发送悄悄话 swj2000 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:56:15

原来要杀了你那么容易啊 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (144 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:00:30

你的心真软. -Lilac2003- 给 Lilac2003 发送悄悄话 Lilac2003 的博客首页 (39 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:03:40

我有一天发现我父母对我在能力和工作学业上的性别教育根本就是缺失的,生理上的性别教育是有过的 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (210 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:10:38

我们这一代人被教导---男人和女人是平等的; 男人可以做到的女人都能做. -Lilac2003- 给 Lilac2003 发送悄悄话 Lilac2003 的博客首页 (86 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:15:48

我后来也明白了这件事,甚至女人和女人也是不同的 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (254 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:19:05

人和人是不同的,过好自己的小日子最实惠--大顶! -Lilac2003- 给 Lilac2003 发送悄悄话 Lilac2003 的博客首页 (33 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:23:09

你怎么那么厉害啊!还敢杀鸡?我都不敢看。 -swj2000- 给 swj2000 发送悄悄话 swj2000 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:58:20

看懂了吧,从小被push长大的人毫无气质可言,这就是证明 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:02:02

社会进步是需要更多人有功力心的。大家都知足常乐,等别人贡献,呵呵,也有问题的。 -wuje- 给 wuje 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:14:52

狗儿要用上帝给的嗓子来叫。不用担心声音小,总有大嗓门的能狗。 -吃与活- 给 吃与活 发送悄悄话 吃与活 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:19:55

就是,咱就只有这么点能耐,就只能做到这样,甭心比天高巴望着能长到姚明那么高 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (679 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:30:00

你净说些实话:)俺说过多次了--目标超出自己的能力,要么损害健康,要么扭曲人格。 -吃与活- 给 吃与活 发送悄悄话 吃与活 的博客首页 (54 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:37:09

我的目标是,在保证不超负荷的前提下,勤奋不偷懒 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:44:48

你的心态非常好,同意你说的. -Lilac2003- 给 Lilac2003 发送悄悄话 Lilac2003 的博客首页 (78 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:37:23

生死由命,跟其它都没有什么关系~ -20146- 给 20146 发送悄悄话 20146 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:34:52

富贵在天,跟做什么职业没关系~ -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:36:11

谁说隔夜菜有毒,喜欢的就吃得香~~~ -20146- 给 20146 发送悄悄话 20146 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:38:00

喂,你还真以为我放着新鲜的不吃偏要吃隔夜菜啊 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (245 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 12:42:38

:)~ -20146- 给 20146 发送悄悄话 20146 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:02:50

在北京,一位老协和训练出来的90多岁的医生说现在的住院医工作时间太短,要求太低,工作太轻松! -dudaan- 给 dudaan 发送悄悄话 dudaan 的博客首页 (42 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:03:21

可当年强度没那么高呀,当年整个社会的节奏都普遍比现在慢 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:06:36

当年住院医要用英文写病历,每月一次英文的读书报告会,还要学会护士的所有技能 -dudaan- 给 dudaan 发送悄悄话 dudaan 的博客首页 (78 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:18:59

淘汰的去干嘛了呢?再也不允许从医了吗? -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:20:26

去二流医院 -dudaan- 给 dudaan 发送悄悄话 dudaan 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 14:37:14

哦哟,我还以为有多严重呢,二流医院就二流医院呗,没啥不好的 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (81 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 14:53:42

现在的医生写出来的字体都那么难看,更不用说病历了,怎么书写病历,一看就知道这个人的水平。 -御用文人- 给 御用文人 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:58:59

没准儿是对年轻人羡慕嫉妒恨呢 -爱吃肉的胖子- 给 爱吃肉的胖子 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 15:54:00

RIP. 很可惜, 有些事情就是命,有些人比他还忙,还累;或许,天堂里可能也需要一些精英吧? -lily60- 给 lily60 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:19:42

那人家天生就是强壮呀,有什么办法,人比人气死人,我就是这辈子怎么吃补药怎么做整形手术都长不到姚明那么高了 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:22:13

有些事情就是天注定 -lily60- 给 lily60 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:50:38

别提姚明啦!您比他幸运多了,他的寿命比不过您。除了钱多,荣誉多,没啥优势。健康第一。 -御用文人- 给 御用文人 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 14:03:24

钱多还不是优势啊,比我强太多了。我就想要钱多 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (1398 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 14:15:11

小沈阳说,“人生最大的痛苦是,人死了,可钱还没花了”。健康长寿是任何有钱人可望而不可及的奢求。 -御用文人- 给 御用文人 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 14:18:49

那是因为小沈阳没死过 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (404 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 14:22:49

欲望是不可能满足的。金钱是儿子的,荣誉是领导的,只有健康是自己的。。。 -御用文人- 给 御用文人 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 14:22:45

金钱是儿子的,这算你说对你 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (542 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 14:27:36

把金钱留给儿子,还不如把把孙子兵法,老子庄子的思想方法留给儿子。这是“授人以鱼不如授人以渔”。。。   -御用文人- 给 御用文人 发送悄悄话 (51 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 14:35:28

说这些话的意思其实是 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (604 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 14:49:35

我会把房子留给儿子,我早就告诉儿子储蓄快花完了(呵呵),不愿意看到儿子心里还惦记着,没有出息。 -御用文人- 给 御用文人 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 15:17:55

房子就是最重要的财产了好吗 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (60 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 15:25:55

房子是花不掉的。。。留给儿子是为了预防万一。只要婚姻能维持,房产就能维持。其他还得自食其力。 -御用文人- 给 御用文人 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 15:51:32

中国人往全世界移民,最后都能比当地人富裕。其根本原因是中国的历史文化和哲学所带来的人生修养。 -御用文人- 给 御用文人 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 15:25:45

是智慧无法买到:) -tournier- 给 tournier 发送悄悄话 tournier 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 15:15:34

聪明人把智慧传给儿子,傻瓜把金钱留给儿子。 -御用文人- 给 御用文人 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 17:17:04

我还是要钱,就是死要钱 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (1038 bytes) () 03/14/2015 postreply 03:35:40

A never smoked friend, 42, died of lung cancer years ago. -Juzizhoutou- 给 Juzizhoutou 发送悄悄话 Juzizhoutou 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:53:01

我个人认为,肺部的疾病和劳累非常有关,劳累是内因,碰到其他外因引发了,就一发不可收拾了 -隔夜菜吃得香- 给 隔夜菜吃得香 发送悄悄话 隔夜菜吃得香 的博客首页 (183 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 13:59:24

俺没去验证,但同意推论,劳累,应该是个ONE OF FACTORS。 -ME_Professor- 给 ME_Professor 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 14:50:44

可能因为肺离心脏比较近,太累的话对心脏不好,也影响了心脏周围的器官, -阿呆瓜- 给 阿呆瓜 发送悄悄话 阿呆瓜 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 17:56:20

感谢各位的讨论,愿逝者安息,谢谢他在患病期间花时间做有意义的事,给大家启迪。祝各位周末愉快 -吃与活- 给 吃与活 发送悄悄话 吃与活 的博客首页 (42 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 15:11:27

这种八股文章真是没有意思,故弄玄虚。有没有简体的? -happycow222- 给 happycow222 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 17:02:23

文笔真好,不愧为英语文学的学士和硕士。 -rancho2008- 给 rancho2008 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/13/2015 postreply 22:23:57

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