建议搬去外州,放弃现在的工作。
几点考虑:1)退休金和医保对你家重要吗 - if yes, go with your wife's option. 2) 你目前在郊外的工作,能一辈子保险吗 - if not, go with your wife's option 3) 你100%愿意老婆在家不上班, 一个人把家抗肩上 - if not, do what's best for you and your family.