楼上兔子说的很清楚了，我来添几只足。

这件事的被动之处在于你没和头儿反映过张三有多笨, 结果让他恶人先告了状。和头儿谈话时，注意力集中在你如何对， 而不是他如何错。证明自己对是正能量，证明别人错是负能量。即使你证明了他错，对头儿没好处。但证明了你对，事情做得好，头儿也省心。
 

(1) I feel sorry to call him lier in the meeting, but I turely think he is and it just came out from my month.

略过，谈话的目的是商量如何把事情做好，个人之间的事不用提。

 

(2) I feel very frustrate to work with him.  During the past several months, I feel that his action is not for the good of the project, but for showing his authority to me. He made the project cannot going smoothly, that is why I even took risk not following procedure to check in my code, which I think it is best for the project.

如果说你frustrated, 等于承认你不知如何与他相处，他对你的控告就有了可信之处。职场上谁谈感觉谁先输。对事不对人的说明你的做法是对的。

 

(3) I never broke any existed feature. We can check the code in source control, or revert my code to test again. It is not hard to verify whether I broke the feature or not.

既然证明你没有出错很容易，那就证明给头儿看。

 

I have always tolerant him, but up to this point, I cannot keep this to myself any more. I dont mind he attack me, but he needs to be honest。

前后有点自相矛盾，既然你不在乎他攻击你，他撒不撒谎也就无所谓了。可以对他的攻击不动气，但不能不在乎，否则成了受气包了。

 

题外的话：沟通是职场顺利的基础。上行沟通尤其重要。遇到问题多和头儿商量着怎么处理，别等到小事拖成大事，爆发之后让头儿收拾残局。

 

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• 你不是废话多多， 说的是真经 -只会做饭- ♀ (204 bytes) () 03/15/2016 postreply 07:46:25

• 赞这贴。确实不能personal，要professional. 不要讲个人感受，要讲对project的质量，进度的影响 -结婚十年- ♀ (0 bytes) () 03/15/2016 postreply 16:28:07