follow-up: big fight with group lead

I am stunned that there were so many replies. WEll, I did not put things clearly the first time. Group lead is GM. My superviser is a director reporting to him. I complained about some issues regarding another sr. director, under GM as well. My superviser used this as a good excuse to beat that sr director and gained a re-org to strengthen his power here. GM learned about my issues from my superviser and wanted to talk about it. A good chance to enhance my relationship with him Yes it is. But I blew it by being too candid about the issues. And my way of communication apparently pushed him to the other side. I think he realized there were some serious issues there. but he is more on their side now. It was very stupid on my side to be way too honest. Also, a lesson learned is that all bosses want to hear good news, not bad ones. If you compare his team to others and tell him the other team is better, the conversation will not have a good ending.
My superviser urged me to talk with GM again saying his door is open for me to have another conversation. I simply cannot talk with him now. I am scared that sth else will come up we will end up fighting again.

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• 回复：你英语沟通能力是没你中国话来的明白...我懂,我把自己拍昏先! -Cathy_Bay- ♀ (26 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:27:18

• 你操太多心了，不在其位不谋其政，否则名不正则言不顺 -龙少爷- ♂ (38 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:23:27

• 顺便说一句，这是我们很多中国同胞的通病，喜人很反感这个 -龙少爷- ♂ (0 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:24:47

• 回复：你操太多心了，不在其位不谋其政，否则名不正则言不顺 -Cathy_Bay- ♀ (87 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:26:03

• 你总认为自己是对的，这是另一个问题，所以你才吵架 -龙少爷- ♂ (377 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:34:57

• 回复：你总认为自己是对的，这是另一个问题，所以你才吵架 -Cathy_Bay- ♀ (86 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:44:12

• 工作的事情永远都是第二位的，处好关系是第一位的 -龙少爷- ♂ (181 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:50:40

• 回复：工作的事情永远都是第二位的，处好关系是第一位的 -Cathy_Bay- ♀ (20 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:53:48

• 我知道你这种性格的人我根本说服不了你，你比较适合当领导 -龙少爷- ♂ (42 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:52:56

• 回复：尽早和老板谈吧,这事越久越难往回圆 -Cathy_Bay- ♀ (110 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:30:09

• 回复：这个比喻太棒了。老美就能做到这点，“脸皮太后” -百万富翁- ♂ (14 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 19:44:25

• 回复：做一个真实的你不是很好吗？为什么要躲躲闪闪的？ -百万富翁- ♂ (0 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 19:41:10

• The truthful self would not want to have another conversation -Cathy_Bay- ♀ (109 bytes) () 01/31/2009 postreply 15:52:05