I think you should quit your current job and move to your hu*****and's city. After you settle down, you can then decide if you want to apply for a new job there - you never know, opportunities could be just right at the corner in that new city. Plus, your kids need their father when they grow up.
Your parents might have certain expectation but this is your family and you know what is best.
Chinese in this country sometimes are overly insecured and forget to live a little bit. Keep the family together is way more important that the bank account.