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People who are confident shine from their facial expression to their way of acting. People like to be with self-confident people and feel thrilled. Confident people believe in themselves, and believe they are good. They always hold positive attitude. Confident people are not arrogant, and they do not feel superior to others. There is a clear line between self- confidence and arrogance.
I realize that I am shy and lack self-confidence long time ago. But I have not decided to shake it off until very recently. Since very little, I did not like to speak in public, and afraid of making presentation. Oh, it is so easy to be nervous. Interview, calling 1-800 number, meeting, all these are terrible memories. Not only these, but also I easily feel guilty, inferior and blame myself for anything I feel I did inappropriately. Also, I easily feel angry and split something unpleasant out.
Things begin to change recently. After watching the Oprah show, I realized the importance of making decision and sticking to your goal. So, I made a serious decision to myself that I must stick to my decisions and never breach them. Since then, I never allow myself to think negatively. For any task or challenge, I always think I can do and believe in myself. Always be brave and courageous. Never be afraid of losing and failure. “Nobody could make you feel inferior without your permission”, and “you have the willpower to change anything”.
Diligence could boost confidence and self-esteem. After shaking off indolence and laziness and getting things done, the feeling of achievement and accomplishments is so wonderful. To this point, I see I am improving. From housework to church activity, I improve the efficiency of utilizing my time to do something that is more practical and more enjoyable. I do not try to avoid responsibility any more, instead, see every responsibility as an opportunity to train my ability and enhance skills. One of the changes I found in myself is that I gradually open my heart and open my mind. “When you never open your heart to others, it is hard for them to open their hearts to you.” Yet I will have a lot more to improve and practice, I am feeling a postive change and the road is long and the practice is a life- long journey.
The following is what I found from internet, it is enlightening people.
I think that self-confidence is very important. If you have low self-esteem , you will not dream up goals because you will think that it is impossible to reach them. Without goals, however, life would be meaningless and boring. Having a goal is like putting an apple in front of a horse, to make it move forward. Each time you reach your goal, your self-confidence grows stronger and you are encouraged to set a new goal. Each time you accomplish something you set out to do, you get a good feeling. This feeling cannot be taken away from you.
You don\'t feel good because you are better than someone else; you feel good because of personal achievement. After you have reached a goal, you must continue to set goals in order to move forward in life.”
It sounds like that goal-orientedness is not a bad idea. Why not start from today. There are so many good advice I cannot disagree.
1. “Be light, humorous, eager to learn, courageous to change and not afraid of making mistakes.”.
2. “On the other hand, if you feel hatred and ill feeling towards others, they may feel similarly toward you, and as a result, suspicion and fear will create a distance between you and make communication difficult. You will then feel lonely and isolated. Not all members of your community will have similar negative feelings toward you, but some may look on you negatively because of your own feeling. If you harbour negative feelings toward others and yet expect them to be friendly to you, you are being illogical. “
3. Love yourself in a wholesome way, like mom loves their childrens unconditionally. Know what is the right thing to do and what is the wrong thing to do.
4. Recognition, understanding and change.
Life is short, and why we don’t enjoy every moment of life, and learn to open our heart and see a happy world and a happy oneself.
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